Seperti apakah INTJ ketika sedang jatuh cinta?

 Mari kita mulai pada dua kaidah utama yang menjadi fondasi INTJ dalam memandang cinta:

"Segala yang berkaitan dengan perasaan itu useless."

"Dikutuk untuk menjadi manusia yang tidak akan pernah bisa romantis dan memahami segala bentuknya."

Keduanya saling berhubungan: kami memandang bahwa perasaan itu identik dengan kelemahan. Mudah nangis, pemaaf, terlalu toleran, ngga enakan atau semacamnya adalah hal-hal yang tidak bisa kami pahami. Sifat-sifat perasa itu tidak sesuai dengan karakter INTJ yang didominasi oleh pemikiran rasional dan logis. Makanya, cinta bagi INTJ haruslah sesuatu yang juga rasional. Tentu saja, ini aneh bagi kebanyakan orang dan menyalahi aturan umum.

Itu menjawab kenapa INTJ tidak bisa jadi sosok yang romantis dalam menjalani hubungan percintaan. Kaku dan keras seperti batu, sedingin es, tidak peka, jahat, tidak mengucapkan selamat ulang tahun karena dianggap tidak perlu melakukannya (atau juga karena lupa), tidak mengerti kado apa yang seharusnya diberikan jika harus memberikan hadiah ke pasangan, sulit dimengerti, topik yang dibahas tidak jauh dari sains, sejarah, teori konspirasi, dunia konseptual, hal-hal abstrak dan random. Bagi mayoritas umat manusia, memiliki pasangan INTJ bukanlah pilihan yang bagus.

Tips for Interacting With ESFPs

Friendships

ESFPs grow weary of the same old routines and are always ready for a new adventure. To keep up with this personality type, you need to always be ready for new experiences - from exploring new places to meeting new people. Keeping things interesting is important, but ESFPs love to have a reliable co-conspirator who is as ready for fun as they are.

Parenting

ESFP children are enthusiastic and energetic, which can be both fun and exhausting for parents. You can help by providing plenty of outlets for this boundless energy. Sports, hobbies, and outdoor adventures are all good sources of fun for ESFP kids. While these kids are people-loving extroverts, they may need time alone to process their feelings when they are upset. Be sure to give them some time before drawing them out to discuss their emotions.

Relationships

ESFPs tend to be honest and forthright in relationships. They don't play games and are warm and enthusiastic in romantic relationships. One thing to remember is that ESFPs dislike conflict and tend to take any critical comments quite personally. While it is important to be straightforward in your relationship with an ESFP, try to avoid being overly harsh or confrontational.

ESFP

Personal Relationships

As extroverts, ESFPs enjoy spending time with other people and have excellent interpersonal skills.

ESFPs are good at understanding how other people are feeling and can respond to other people's emotions in productive ways. For this reason, ESFPs can make good leaders and have a knack for mobilizing, motivating, and persuading group members.

ESFPs are often described as warm, kind, and thoughtful, making them popular and well-liked by others. ESFPs enjoy meeting new people, but they also have a thirst for new experiences.

They are generally focused on the present and will often be the first person to try the newest ride at an amusement park or try out a new adventure sport.

Career Paths

With their strong dislike for routine, ESFPs do best in careers that involve a lot of variety. Jobs that involve a great deal of socializing are also a great fit, allowing individuals with this personality type to put their considerable people skills to good use. Careers that involve a great deal of structure and solitary work can be difficult for ESFPs, and they often become bored in such situations.

Popular ESFP Careers

• Artist
• Actor
• Counsellor
• Social worker
• Athletic coach
• Child care provider
• Musician
• Psychologist
• Human resources specialist
• Fashion designer

ESFP Characteristics

 Tertiary: Extraverted Thinking

• This function is focused on enforcing order on the outside world. It is centered on productivity, logic, and results.
• Because this tends to be a weaker aspect of personality, ESFPs may not always feel secure sharing their judgments, especially if they feel it will disrupt the harmony of the group.

Inferior: Introverted Intuition

• While this is the least prominent aspect of personality, this function can help the ESFP spot patterns and make connections in things they have observed.
• ESFPs are usually not particularly adept at using logic to sort through abstract concepts, but this sense can sometimes lead to flashes of insight and epiphanies about themselves or the world.

ESFP Characteristics

 Strengths

• Optimistic and gregarious

• Enjoys people and socializing

• Focused on the present, spontaneous

• Practical

Weaknesses

• Dislikes abstract theories

• Becomes bored easily

• Do not plan ahead

• Impulsive

Cognitive Functions

The MBTI suggests that individual personalities are marked by many different cognitive functions (sensing, thinking, feeling, and intuition). Some of these are more dominant than others and the hierarchical order of these functions influences how people perceive and relate to the world.

These functions are focused outwardly (extraverted) and in other cases, they are focused inwardly (introverted). Extraverted functions are focused on interacting and acting within the world around you, while introverted functions are centred on internal reflection and analysis.

ESFP Compatibility

ESFPs tend to get along well with INTJ, INFJ, ISTJ, and ISFJ types, which may be a case of opposites attracting. The "judging" nature of these types often complements the practical side of ESFPs.

Key ESFP Characteristics

• They are practical and resourceful. ESFPs prefer to learn through hands-on experience and tend to dislike book learning and theoretical discussions. Because of this, students with ESFP personality types sometimes struggle in traditional classroom settings. However, they excel in situations where they are allowed to interact with others or learn through direct experience.
• They figure things out as they go along. ESFPs live very much in the here and now and sometimes fail to think about how current actions will lead to long-term consequences. They will often rush into a new situation and figure things out as they happen. They also tend to dislike routine, enjoy new experiences and are always looking for a new adventure.
• They are very understanding. ESFPs are perceptive when it comes to other people. They are able to sense what others are feeling and know how to respond. People tend to find them warm, sympathetic, and easygoing.
• They are fun-loving. While ESFPs do not shun the spotlight, they are more interested in simply living in the present and doing what feels right at that moment.