Beyond being a major turn off (although does it really matter if you’re turned off if they’ve already cut contact?), ghosting can affect our mental health and self-esteem.
“It can leave you feeling rejected and questioning your self-worth. For some people there is a feeling of being 'disposable'. As attachment-seeking beings, that feeling can be extremely powerful,” explains Relate Counsellor Tamara Hoyton. ‘Thoughts like “Am I unlovable?’ or ‘What did I do wrong?’ can flood your mind. You may even hold onto hope, believing that the person will reappear. This lack of closure can be emotionally crippling.”
The uncertainty of the situation can leave us feeling emotionally preoccupied, Hoyton says, but reminds us that getting ghosted reflects more on the ghoster than it does on you. “ Some people don't have the ability to formulate their thoughts about a situation and would prefer it to just go away.” explains Hoyton. If someone buries their head in the sand, it’s more of a them problem than a you problem.
Then again, and let's be honest here, most of us have been guilty of ghosting at some point. Not that we’re proud of it or anything, because ghosting someone can feel pretty terrible.
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